Negative grading of peripherization, and the positive correlation between emotional intelligence and acceptance in arguments

A person's ability to care about others basically depends on two things:
1) Ability to constantly valuate individuals.
Our environment naturally reinforces 'ignorance' of the people around us. We walk down the street and 100 people walk by. Many people are afraid to make eye contact, smile, or say hello to strangers, let alone stopping to say hello. This isn't just true on the street but also it is even true even through to intimate social situations and everywhere in between. And even when speaking with people, it seems some have a tendency to monologue or talk about themselves, rather than pausing for real conversation and showing genuine interest in others.
2) Ability to maintain multiple simultaneous trains of thought and frequently select those which more accurately depict and develop an implicit self image.
Being able to maintain simultaneous cognitions or emotions is the foundation on upon which human empathy is built. It allows us to understand the multiple levels of acceptance people have for our ideas, in discourse, and it further allows us to consider that each person will, in any given situation, desire to hold onto a piece of themselves, without entirely giving in to someone elses opinion.